So what does one do when you and your beloved don’t enjoy the same things AND you are WAY past the part of courtship where you feel the need to pretend? After I spent a weekend hunting with my hubby right after marrying him, I decided there were some things that he should experience on his own. I also decided I would never eat deer meat again. Or go camping in Northern Idaho in October. I decided a lot of things on that trip.
One might say that each doing what they enjoy without forcing the other spouse to do it as well would be the best conclusion. You, however, would be naïve. If I never went with my beloved on horrible excursions, we would probably never see each other. Tuesdays and Thursdays are kid activities and dental and board meetings. Wednesday is scouting for Kevin because he is the leader. Some Mondays are dental meetings and some Kevin just works late. It gets to the point where you schedule time together. The problem occurs when your spouse wants to also schedule things he enjoys doing with the time together.
This is how I ended up on a two person-fishing vessel in a lake while eating dinner. Kevin wanted to make a romantic dinner for two on this fishing vessel. There was a slight problem with this, however. Every time Kevin stood up or moved, I thought for sure the boat would tip. I do not enjoy this feeling. To add to this, Kevin actually fished. He picked up a worm, put it on a hook and then handed me a plate for food. Ick.
The next step is to get the worm in the water. His first cast was towards me and so I was dripped on as the line went out of the water and over my head to settle in front of me. He very graciously did not do that again.
It didn’t get better when he actually caught a fish and got it in the boat and it flapped around and tipped over his plate, the stuffed grape leaves and the salad. He was going to let the fish go but it was a decent size and after the fish destroyed my meal, I suggested it should die. So it did.
It got dark and incredibly cold and so we drove the floating vessel back to the dock. Kevin let me know how much he enjoyed himself and I told him that I was glad he did. He then made the HUGE mistake of asking me if I enjoyed myself. I mistakenly did not lie. I said that it was an “interesting” evening. He asked if I enjoyed any of it. I didn’t say I enjoyed the sugar cookie I had, that is, until I found out it is 11 weight watcher points. So now after going on a romantic fishing trip –yes, I know it is an oxymoron- the rest of the ride home was quiet. Perhaps one might say uncomfortably quiet.
So I figure fair is fair. He must now do something I enjoy that he does not. I, however, will not make the mistake of asking if he enjoys it. I do not care. As long as I get sparkle toes, he can do whatever he wants at The Nail Shop.