A Relative Viewpoint

Everything is relative.  Especially your family. I recently got an iphone, which just recently came to Montana (we were waiting for electricity to arrive first so we could charge it).  Some people now believe I am spoiled and my husband let me know this.  (That sounds like a post for another day.)  It may have something to do with the fact that now my computer and phone can sync and I am hoping they get together and have babies so that I can sell iphones out of the back of my minivan or pin some to a trench coat and sell them at the farmer’s market and I was vocal about my excitement yesterday and preceded to download every free app available.  If you need to know where the Hubble telescope is, by the way, I can tell you.

Then I thought how I would never have thought that an iphone makes someone spoiled.  A gold plated iphone, maybe, but not just a regular iphone.  That could be because I have one.  (a regular one, not gold-plated, although I am thinking of getting a solid gold grill for my front bottom teeth.  Or would that make me spoiled? What about sterling silver?  Tin? Or will UFO’s be able to talk to me then?)

Now I am about to take a bit of jump here.  Come with me, and you’ll be in the world of pure imagination (reference anyone?). I was thinking how one’s viewpoint is really based on your life story.  To me iphones are up there with droid phones but because so many people own them, I don’t really think about them as special anymore except for the fact that they were special due to their unattainability in my state due to the previously mentioned problem with electricity.  (I could never own a Droid phone, by the way.  “Droid” makes me think of “android” which makes me think of movies with robots who kill people and I can’t put something so close to my face that I believe will one day try to eat me.  The iphone has the word I in it, which makes me think of myself which is what I try to do in every decision I make.  My phone purchases are very philosophical… and selfish.)

The other day, my daughter asked me for money.  I asked what she wanted it for.  She said, “I was going to use some of it for college.” Now beside the fact that I believe this shows how brilliant my daughter is because she knows exactly how to get money from me and we will ignore how it may be too easy for my kids to get money from me, I thought about how not everyone in her kindergarten class is planning on college at age 5.  Some won’t be planning on college at the age of 15 either.  I grew up and my children are growing up knowing college is after high school.  Period.  Of course you will be going to college.

And because I went to college, I look at the world differently, perhaps, than someone who didn’t.  I probably look at the world differently than someone who was not expected to go but did as well.

And then every decision I have made since then, changes my viewpoint.  I think/expect/unfairly demand that my kids will end up with a master’s or a professional degree, just for the fun of it.  I won’t disown them if they don’t, but I will send them post-grad degree applications every year for Christmas.  Kevin and I both have professional degrees and it is just a part of life.  Go to school until they ask you to leave is my motto.  When my niece couldn’t find a job, I said, to be helpful, “That’s because you only have one degree.” (I am nothing if not supportive.)

Sometimes I wonder if viewpoint is a barrier to friendships.  I think you can be friends with anyone, but is it easier to be friends with someone with a similar background?  Do my friends have a hard time relating to me when I talk about going to political fundraisers because for some reason (I believe it is due to something really BAD I did in a previous life) that is part of my world now?  Or can I only relate to people who own speedboats built in the 80’s because we own one?  Is it no longer easy to relate to people without boats or people with nice boats or people with rowboats?

How much does one’s viewpoint and expectations from life affect how one relates to  others?  And is there a free app for that?


3 responses to “A Relative Viewpoint

  1. I love your sense of snark. I pretty sure I’m getting an iPhone this summer, which means I’ll likely spend too much time looking at it instead of my children. Do you think there’s an app that teaches your kids to tie their shoes?

    I do think (as adults, at least) we tend to choose friends who are similar to us or who we want to be like. I’ve even heard that people follow people very similar to them on twitter, even in terms of class and race. I’m not sure I totally buy into this, but it was something to ponder again.

    I’ll be sure to contact you for the best apps when I go over to the dark side.

    PS. I too love Willy Wonka

  2. Maybe the state of Montant can invent a way to turn radon into energy. I’m sure there is an app for that….

    My daughter, who is currently preparing her highschool schedule for next year, asked, with sincere surprise, “There is a non-college path?” The choice of not going to college has never been an option in our home as well and appearantly, we have been successful in our dictatorship. But we dictators practice what we preach. We have enough years of graduate education combined to compete with the amount of apps available for your blazing new iphone.

    We have a problem. I blame the radon.

  3. ahem: “appearently” finger seizure.

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