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Thank You

Although this last month has been completely horrid, it has also brought an outpouring and concern and love that I never imagined.

I must pause for a moment and thank everyone who has offered condolences and showed concerned.  I’ve received so many cards, notes, texts, flowers, and hugs.  Each and every one helped so much.  And even weeks later I get random texts or notes asking if  I’m doing okay.

This has kept me going.

It can be hard for me to mourn or cry.  I feel like people expect me to be funny all the time.  And although I’ve seen the irony of the past month (1% chance pregnancy followed by a less than 2% chance miscarriage…  While beating the odds like this, I should head to Vegas.) I don’t feel as funny.  I feel like I’m asking myself “Is this an appropriate place for a burst of emotion?” while doing inane things.  (I cried heavily in the middle of The Imitation Game.  I had no tears left at the end.  Instead I just thought, “What a horrible ending to an amazing man.  I should be crying.”  But I was spent.)

In the middle of all of this questioning of myself, people have just been kind.  It has been wonderful.

And I am so, so grateful.

Thank You

Christmas Card Dispute

Every year, about this time, my husband and I disagree.  It’s the only time all year.

He likes traditional family pictures.  He wants the family to get in their Sunday best and sit by a waterfall with hands in laps, smiling prettily as someone takes our picture.  I would rather have my kids in clothes they wear every day having pictures taken while they try to get in the waterfall.  It’s more real to me.  And we yell at our children less.

It’s the same with the Holiday letter.  He would like me to write a letter saying everything we did that year, but I just can’t.  I’m not sure if I think this is bragging or if I think it’s lying to only highlight the good parts.

I love getting Christmas cards that tell me what everyone is doing, but some can be a bit over the top.  If you tell me that your daughter won the science fair, your son played piano at a Yo Yo Ma concert, and your spouse threw a party for 500 and cooked all of the food in your one oven, I start questioning what your spouse soaked your piece of fruitcake in.

My card would say something like “my children love reptiles, but a little too much.  I finally threatened to send any more snakes I found in my house to Hermes to make a nice handbag.  Crying may have followed.”

I think it would make a nice clutch

So I am asking all of you, what do you do/like?  Do you like the Christmas letters where everything is absolutely perfect in life or do you like the cards that admit the flaws?